How to Eat Ass: Tips and Techniques for A+ Analingus

Putting a hole new meaning to the term 'ass kisser.'

Analingus goes by many different names and terminologies - 'rimming,' 'eating ass,' 'salad tossing,' and, unfortunately, 'tongue punching the fart box' are just a few euphemisms for the sex act.

The practice once had a certain stigma to it of being dirty or perverse, but now positive pop culture references to analingus are just as plentiful as verbiage varieties, with highly respected musical artists proudly proclaiming their love for the act - think Jhené Aiko's verse in "Post to Be" where she stipulates a lover "gotta eat the booty like groceries," and Megan Thee Stallion's clever claim in "WAP" that a partner who eats her ass is a "bottom-feeder."

And if you've landed on this article, there's a good chance that you, too, are ready to shed any shame society may place on analingus and swap it for unadulterated pleasure. With some help from our expert intel, you'll be an ass-eating pro in no time once you've read up on all the juicy deets, like:

How to talk to your partner about booty munchin'

The value of ~cleanliness~

Anal anatomy

Rim job sex positions

And, most importantly, how to eat ass like a superstar!

What is Analingus?

Analingus is essentially oral sex for the ass! Really, it is the act of stimulating the anus with the mouth and tongue. While some people do slip their tongue inside their partner's rectum when performing analingus, rim jobs typically only pertain to servicing the booty's exterior (hence the word "rim.")

Consent and Communication

Always ask before making a meal of someone's ass! Just because your mouth happens to be near your partner's b-hole, that doesn't give you the right to smooch it. Be sure you have enthusiastic consent prior to rimming and recognize and respect the fact that said consent can be taken away at any moment for any reason.

And, of course, consent is a two-way street. Never pressure someone into giving you analingus, and never ass-ume that they will, either. I will forever be haunted by that Sex and the City episode where a man Miranda is sleeping with keeps shoving his ass in her face in hopes of her eating it (Season 4, Episode 6 - "Baby, Talk Is Cheap," if you're curious.) Don't be like that guy - nobody should be like that guy.

But there's more to discuss than simply asking, "Do you wanna?". Lovers should have an open dialogue before, during, and after engaging in analingus. Consider the following talking points (and follow-up questions because the more thorough you are in communication, the better!) for healthy conversations surrounding rim jobs.

Questions to ask before analingus:

Have you ever tried analingus?

(If they have tried analingus before):

Did you enjoy it, and would you be open to trying it again?

What did you like and dislike about it?

(If they haven't tried analingus before):

Would you be interested in trying it out together?

What can I do to make you feel the most comfortable during analingus?

What sort of preparation would you like us to employ if we were to explore analingus?

Questions to ask during analingus:

Are you comfortable?

Does this feel good?

Questions to ask after analingus:

Did you enjoy that?

How do you now feel physically and emotionally?

What did you like and dislike about that?

Would you be interested in doing that again?

Is there anything you'd like me to change up for next time?

Cleanliness and Safety

Personal hygiene is always a key factor when indulging in booty play, but especially so when ass eating is on the table. An unwashed puckered hole is unsafe to pucker your lips against as it can lead to the transfer of harmful bacteria like E. coli and salmonella. So, before you put your mouth where the sun don't shine, make sure your partner washes all external portions of their ass with water and mild soap.

Another safety measure to consider is the potential for STI transmission. You can reduce such risks by using safer-sex barrier methods like dental dams.

Understanding Anal Anatomy

It's hard to know how to please the human body if you don't know much about it! This crash course on anal anatomy should help you along your way to becoming an analingus superstar.

The exterior anal area is jam-packed with nerve endings (which is why anal play can feel so amazing!) and consists of four main parts:

Buttocks

(Informally known as: 'butt cheeks')

Sometimes also medically referred to as "glutes," the butt cheeks consist of three muscles: the gluteus maximus, gluteus medius, and gluteus minimus. Like most muscles, the butt cheeks respond well to squeezing and massage.

Intergluteal Cleft

(Informally known as: 'butt crack')

It's what's between the cheeks! This area is not touched regularly, which actually preserves the nerve endings here and makes it a little more sensitive than other fleshly areas of the body.

Anus

(Informally known as: 'butthole')

The anus is a wrinkled hole comprised of two rings of muscles - the external sphincter and the internal sphincter. The second highest concentration of nerve endings anywhere on the human body resides in the anus. (Can you guess where the highest concentration lives? That's right - the clitoris!)

Perineum

(Informally known as: 'taint' or 'gooch')

The perineum is a pressure point located between the anus and genitals.

Keep in mind that we're here to discuss sex, not science, so we've kept this overview quite simplistic. There's far more to anal anatomy than what we've covered, so if you're interested, do some research and read up on all the nitty-gritty details of the booty from a reputable medical source (or ask your neighborhood sex educator).

How to Perform Analingus

Now that you have some background info on eating someone's backside, it's time to get down to the backdoor business itself!

Step 1: Rev Yourselves Up

Going from 0 to 100 is rarely a recipe for sexual satisfaction, so don't forget to employ ample foreplay before devouring the main course. The more turned on you both are before analingus takes place, the more pleasurable it will be!

After engaging in plenty of standard foreplay ('standard' meaning whatever acts the two of you typically enjoy to get hot and bothered), you may want to spend extra time and attention providing ~anal foreplay~.

Since you're now already familiar with ass anatomy (you're welcome!), put that knowledge to use by giving love to each of the booty's pleasure zones (that you and your partner agree upon, of course).

To stimulate your partner's butt cheeks, you might try:

Kneading and massaging

Kissing, licking, and gently nipping

Sensory play with ice cubes or sex toys like feather ticklers

Giving them a light (or hearty!) spanking with your hands or impact play tools

To stimulate your partner's perineum, you might try:

Wearing a finger vibrator and resting your now-vibrating finger against their gooch

Gently tickling or rubbing it

Using lubricant and a sensory-enhancing finger sleeve while lightly massaging

To stimulate your partner's anus during foreplay, you might try:

Gently blowing onto it

Teasing it by running your finger in circles around the area, starting with a large circle and slowly closing in on your target

Lightly rubbing and massaging

And always make sure your nails are neatly trimmed and filed before playing with your boo's booty to avoid any injuries!

Step 2: Get Into Position

Before you dine at a fine restaurant, you need to take a seat at the table, right? Likewise, prior to dining on your partner's puckered pleasure hole, you'll both need to assume a good position first. The best ass-eating sex positions will provide the giver with easy access to their lover's b-hole and be easy to maintain for long periods of time for both parties.

Need a little inspiration? No worries, we've got your backside covered. We provide a few specific analingus sex positions in a later section, paired with ~tasteful~ illustrations so you know exactly what to do.

Step 3: Start Lickin'

You've done all the prep work - now it's time to let your skills shine. The best booty lickers don't just stick to one type of movement but keep a few in their arse-inal and switch between them.

PRO TIP: Vary your approach

All of the below analingus techniques can be performed in an assortment of manners. Play around with different methods of tongue forms (flat vs. pointed licks), pressures (firm, medium, and gentle), and speeds (fast, slow, and a combination of the two) to find what works best for you and your partner.

A few butt-munchin' moves to consider:

The Straight Shooter

Lick the entirety of your partner's crack from top to bottom, then from bottom to top, and repeat for as long as you both like.

The Side Swipe

Run your tongue horizontally across their anus from left to right and back again. Keep that same back-and-forth motion going without pausing or breaking contact.

Around the World

Lick around the rim of your lover's anus in a series of clockwise circles. Feel free to switch things up mid-rim by reversing the action and performing the move in a counter-clockwise motion.

Many Moons

Start with your tongue at the left of the center of your partner's butthole and lick in a half-circle pattern on the top half of their hole until you reach their anus's center-right. Return your tongue to its initial starting point and repeat the motion on the bottom half of your boo's b-hole.

Step 4: Ask for and Listen to Feedback

Every body and booty are different - what feels great for one person's anus might feel icky for another. Be sure to check in with your partner now and then and incorporate their responses and requests into your ass-eating sesh.

Bonus Step for Pros: Enhance Stimulation

While employing expert analingus techniques (like the ones you learned in this guide!) will make for a stellar rim job, adding stimulation to erogenous zones beyond the booty can up the ante and make for an unforgettable experience.

While your mouth is busy servicing your lover's butthole, make use of your hands or sex toys to delight their genitals simultaneously.

To provide extra stimulation for vagina owners, you might try:

Fingering them

Playing with their clitoris

Having them or you hold a bullet vibrator or wand massager against their clit

Thrusting a dildo or internal vibrator inside their vagina

Having them don a wearable vibrator that doesn't interfere with access to their booty